Don't Trick Off Your Life -- It's Almost Over!

In case it never crossed your mind, your life is already HALF WAY OVER.

Okay, okay. So, if you're in your 20s or are 50+, this message doesn't really apply to you. But if you're in my peer group (late 30s and early 40s), then "this Bud's for you!" Now, I'll say it again. And you read it slowly.

Your life is already HALF WAY OVER.

Let that sink in. Go ahead and marinate on it -- I'll wait. Feeeel the gravity of that statement. I mean, unless you're pretty confident that you'll be living to the ripe old age of 100, it's safe to assume you have, indeed, completed the first half of your life.

And that sucker went by quick, didn't it? I mean, weren't we all in college yesterday watching Spike Lee's "School Daze" and doin' Da Butt? Didn't we just go to the high school prom last month listening to Keith Sweat singing "Make It Last Forever?" I can recall details about junior high school like last week's episode of "CSI." Those of you with children surely have seen the years flying by.

In case you're not catching what I'm throwing: We're on our way BACK into the Pampers!

Right about now, your brain should be kicking into overdrive thinking about how you're going to live out the second half of your life effectively. (And for you Type-A Personality people who figured out your entire life's plan by the time you reached 15 years of age, this Bud is NOT for you!)

It's time to think about whether you're really going to keep getting involved in mediocre relationships? Are you going to stay in the crappy one you're having now?

Answer this question: Do you consider yourself insane?

Well, you know what we say is the definition of insanity -- doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting a different result. So, are you pursuing your lovelife with a touch of insanity? Fellas, are you dating the same kind of girl every time and wondering why it always blows up in your face (and your wallet's lookin' a lil' thinner)? Ladies, are you getting involved with men who keep running the same old game (getting the "cookies" and then disappearing)?

And married people, you aren't exempt from this conversation either. Are you really going to walk into your golden years with the one who makes you miserable? (If you have small children, it's a totally different scenario -- I know.)


Regardless of your status -- married, single or dating -- it all sort of sounds a little insane doesn't it?

I'm imploring you once again: Are you going to let other people and their bullshit cause you to screw off the second half of your life? After all, if you thought the first half went by quickly, just watch how fast this 2nd half flies by!

I shared this Relationship Revelation with a friend of about a month ago. He'd been holding on to a loveless marriage for more than 10 years. Initially, he stayed for the kids, but it all just fell apart. After he and I talked about this revelation, he filed for divorce the very next day. I'm not advocating divorce. I abhor the very idea of it. But what I hate even more is someone wasting my time and filling my life with stress and malice.

Today, I have no answers. Just this one question: How are you going to live the second half of your life?

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