Saturday, April 14, 2012

A Warning from a Divorced Man


"When your husband suggests you two go to counseling, just know that -- for him -- divorce is already an option."

-- Richard Molette, Relationship Revelations Reader






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Saturday, April 7, 2012

Learning the Man Code: Lemme Put the Tip In

Let's just give credit where credit is due: The men play a better game than women do when it comes to getting what they want from the opposite sex. Sure, the ladies do their fair share of diggin' in them pockets. But gold-diggin' women aren't running through men at the same rate that the men are gettin' into the panties. For every one man a woman tricks into pay for her light bill, that same man has probably run through 10 to 20 women to get their goodies. And I'm being modest with that number.

But what confuses me is WHY this is still happening during a time in our history when too much of "The Man Code" is on display and already decoded. It's not hidden anymore. Girls don't have to guess what some men think of them anymore or what their motives are. So, where's the code?

It's in the music!

Check out the first verse of a song by rapper Plies titled "Just the Tip" featuring Ludacris:

We ain't gotta do nothing, Just Let me put the head inAin't gon' move for nothing though, I'm dead seriousHow 'bout 2 or 3 pumps - 3 that's it If I don't make you feel good at first then I'll quitWhy you tripping? Move your hand out the way real quickWhy you always laughing, kee-keeing and bullshittin'If you love me you'll let me do it, I'm just sayingTake them off or pull them to the side stop playingTell the truth I make you feel good e'rytimeIt ain't my fault girl, You shouldn't be so damn fineLet me put it in though for the hundredth timeI ain't gon' keep on begging I'ma ask you for the last timeYou don't got to do nothing, You can just lay thereYou ain't gotta throw it back or nothing, I don't even careI don't even do you like that, You don't play fairHmph! I knew you was gon' let me in there!


The song ends with the artist asking, "You still love me?"

Well, damn! If you're clueless after reading that, then I can't help you! But seriously, this is what today's young women (and some gullible older ones) are fighting against -- the pop culture subtext that says all a man needs from a woman is sex.

Back in the day, ladies were left in the dark about the script men were running and what men were saying in the locker rooms. But today, we've got songs all over the radio telling us to let men put the head in, bend it over, make it clap, twerk it and touch our toes. Hell, it sounds like freakin' aerobics! What's worse is they've got music videos to make it perfectly clear if you missed a lyric or two. But today, women and especially young women have absolutely no excuse to be unaware of some levels of game men are playing.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not mad at these men at all. They're just telling the truth. If I was to be mad at anyone, it's these women who act like they DON'T know what's going on and play victim when they get their egos "knocked down" (pun intended). Not all men are dogs and not all men are out to get into the panties, but if you're not sure...just listen to the music!

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