Ladies, some of you don't know how to listen to a man. Think I'm lying? Keep reading.
A girlfriend of mine was dating a man who was still involved with his child's mother. In fact, he was so involved with her that she was listed as his girlfriend on his Facebook page. I'm talking about full-out public acknowledgement with photos of the three of them and everything. In fact, he was living with this woman and his child. One day, my girlfriend and this "taken" man she was dating had a late night rendezvous. When they'd finished canoodling and whatnot, he made a comment about how much he admired her new haircut. He played in it all night running his fingers through it, smelling it and complimenting how the cut fit her face, blah, blah, blah.
So, my friend tells me this rather boring story about how she wasted even more time with this unworthy jerk, telling me about the haircut thing. And she says, "Now, lemme ask you this...what does it mean that he kept playing in my hair and complimenting the cut? GO!"
Without even blinking, I looked at her and said, "Whatchoo mean, what does it mean? Hell, it means that negro likes yo damned haircut."
She circles around for another approach like a commercial jumbo jet making a second attempt at landing. I already know she's hoping I'll go where she's obviously trying to lead me, but I'm not biting. She asks, "No, I mean, what does it mean that he kept playing in my hair? I mean, when he thought I was asleep he kept playing in it. Girl, I think he even smelled my hair! What does it mean? GO!"
I told my girl, "First of all, you gon' stop hollerin' GO like I'm a circus animal performing on cue. Second of all, it means that negro likes your haircut!"
And how does she come back at me? With the craziest thing I think I've ever heard a woman say...EVER.
She says, "Well, I know he has feelings for me. I know he loves me and he just needs to admit that. I don't even know why he's with her. She gets on his nerves anyway. He tells me he can't stand her and he just stays for their daughter."
And you got all this from "I like your haircut?!?!?!" I'd hate to see what would happen if he said he liked her shoes!
The bottom line is that some of us ladies have selective hearing and jacked up interpretations of things men say in plain damned English. He liked her haircut and he told her so. But in her twisted mind, her haircut was something he loved ABOUT her so surely he was falling in love WITH her.
But wait, it gets worse.
What about the guy who is honest enough with a woman to tell her that he's not interested in a long-term relationship or that he's not looking for anything serious. For every one man who says this, there are 20 dumb ass women who think their coochie is sweet enough to change that man's mind.
But here's where it really takes a turn.
In a manipulative effort just to get into this man's world she engages the man in a casual sexual relationship -- friends with benefits, no strings attached. Well, I'm no expert but you don't dangle a steak in front of a hungry dog. And when you put the goodies in front of a man who only wants the goodies...he's gonna grab himself a handful! Meanwhile, she's developing "strings" and attaching them all over the damned place. In other words, she's catching feelings when it was supposed to be a casual thing.
And we all know what happens next...
After a dozen unsuccessful attempts to NICELY break free of this delusional woman who has conjured up a relationship in her mind out of something he views as purely sexual, he's got to resort to being an asshole just to get away from her. (This is the part where all of us girls get together and call the man a dog because YOU dangled the steak in his face and got mad because he took a bite.)
Ladies, keep it simple in 2012 if you want to find a man. In fact, I'll help you.
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE SINGLE ANYMORE,
STOP HAVING SEX WITH MEN WHO TELL YOU THEY DON'T WANT YOU!
STOP HAVING SEX WITH MEN WHO TELL YOU THEY DON'T WANT YOU!
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