She's Not Just a Smoker

When you begin a relationship, you usually start off with a one- or two-word label to describe the one you're dating. Baby mama, divorcee, smoker, drinker, drop-out, etc.

It's funny when we label people how those early descriptions are almost never kind like great mom, paying child support, recovering addict, in GED classes, community volunteer, etc.

And we usually follow up those negative descriptors with a statement like, "I can't date a woman who smokes." Or maybe we say, "I can't date a man with kids."

But you move forward anyway and you take a chance and date the "smoker" anyway. Then one day it hits you after dating the "baby daddy" for a while...he's not just a baby daddy. He' so much more than that simple label he started off with. He spends quality time with his kids; he volunteers in his community; he helps his disabled mother; he's recognized for excellence at work.

And if you really stopped for a moment and thought about it, you'd realize that putting quick labels on a person will keep you from finding a great person...maybe even the right person.

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