Don't you find it odd that some women feel obligated to "give it up" after being treated to dinner and a movie? I mean, we receive more for our birthday and Christmas and feel less obligation to give anything back. So, why do we allow ourselves to feel any kind of pressure for a grilled chicken breast, steamed vegetables, fresh bread and whatever flick Denzel's got playing this summer?
What is it about receiving dinner and a movie that means a man can receive your cookies???
If you believe your worth fits on a 12" plate, then you need to go back and reassess your value, your self-esteem. You don't need to be dating, you need to be in counseling!
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Love it Michica!!! Keep up the good work and putting something on peoples minds!! Love and light!~ Crystal R.
ReplyDeleteAw, hey Sis!!! Thank you for such a lovely compliment and the click-thru!
ReplyDelete~Michica
I personally feel that just because I spend money on a female, it doesn't obilgate them to anything. In fact I have always felt that if a woman wants to give me her cookies she will let me know. I have to admit I was never the one to make the 1st move and when the majic cookie jar did open it was always after we had been dating for a while and she made it known that this is what she wanted. HOLLA
ReplyDeleteWe need more like you Anonymous #3!!!
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LOL!!! He sounds like a dude that the chicks all call for free meals and "good conversation" If you don't want to feel obligated to give it up offer an alternative form of a date...Go bike riding...hit up a book store together and then maybe a picnic that you two prepare together...or here's an idea...YOU Pay for the dinner. How much would it be worth to YOU to not feel pressured to give it up? Or better yet, let the dude know before you all go out whether or not you're feeling him like that so that he doesnt have to go through the time honored tradition of "dinner and a movie" to get some, he can take you to dinner and a movie because he wants to spend time with you having dinner and a movie. And then nature can take it's course and it's TIME before you give it up!
ReplyDeleteAt Anonymous #3, that was an EXCELLENT commentary and addition to this blog!!!!
ReplyDeleteAs always, Michica, you are on point. From my perspective - as an old-fashioned, time out of time, Christian male - just because I elect to pay for dinner, a movie, or whatever else comes along the way, doesn't mean I'm looking to get laid. It just simply means what it means: this was my invitation to you, my date, and I'm treating.
ReplyDeleteThe same sentiment can be applied to everything else with regards to going out / hanging out, dating, and even (for me) a relationship. I don't need to "buy" anything ... it should be by my integrity, honor, and character that dictates my success with whomever I'm spending time. It should be, first and foremost, that level of attraction and comfortability/compatibilty (be it physical, mental, emotional, or a beautiful combination of all aspects) that decides which path could, or will be, taken ... nothing more, nothing less.
Rather than expecting a "pay-off" in the form of getting laid for a night out, men (and women, too) need to concentrate more on enjoying the moment and just letting it flow. Enjoy the little things - the conversation, the moments of silence, the getting-to-know-one-another - rather than seeking to fulfill a need or scratch an itch.
Just this ol' boy's perspective. =)
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what if thats exactly what the women wants?
ReplyDeleteHello Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteHoney, if that's what she wants and she can handle it...more power to her! It's the women who play victim that drive me to complain. Good question!
Sex should be a mutual feeling and not the power of one against the other. Don't let a man buy you dinner if you can afford one. Nothing is free you know. When you expect free things expect to be disrespected
ReplyDeleteJ Peterson
If she gives it up then its on her.
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