Ladies, embarrassing your man in public is a no-no! I see girlfriends do this all the time, then wonder why their man has an attitude the rest of the night. Jokes shared at home between the two of you are best left AT HOME! Mentions of his crooked left baby toe are off limits when you're in front of company.
Sure, men are the stronger sex, but their egos cannot tolerate public embarrassment. Make your man look good in public, and he'll make you feel good all the time!
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Content copyright 2011. Relationship Revelations, LLC. All rights reserved.
This is so very true and I know the feeling. One weekend my wife, daughter and I, My uncle and his wife went to my grandmothers house to see a long lost cousin and her new husband who were there visiting. We shared marriage experiences because my uncle and aunt had been married for about 6 years and us about 4. My cousin asked how often she or I cook. I told my cousin we had been eating out about 3 to 4 days per week for a few months. My wife immediately lashed out and said she cooks almost everyday.
ReplyDeleteI reminded her about the previous week, the places and on what days we ate dinner at or got take-out from and the fact that we were also using our Entertainment coupon book for the BOGO's at the fine dining establishments. She exploded and denied it and told me I didn't know what I was talking about. She did not even offer any proof of what she was cooking. I gave yet another rebuttal and she lashed out again saying I was lying.
Everyone looked at me as if they was expecting me to reach back like Serena Williams hitting a game winning serve and strike her with a "Where’s my money you lying B!*#&" five fingered pimp slap. I was truly embarrassed in front of MY family. I quickly ate my food, got up and they watched me walk by her probably thinking “uh oh, here it comes!”
I was not going to entertain the argument, so I went and sat in the recliner in the living room and watched TV. All four of them came out of the dinning room about 10 minutes later. My grandmother called my name and I didn’t respond. My wife called my name twice getting louder and I still didn’t respond. My grandmother said “oh he’s taking a nap.”
My wife went on to say “I can’t believe he said I don’t cook all the time, he’s just a liar!” and continued rambling. After a minute or two of this I got up from the recliner and that look of “Uh ooohh, he’s about to hit her for sure now.” Instantly graced their faces again, she even looked like she knew she was about to regret what she said assuming I was asleep. I got our suitcases and bags and put them in the car and told her lets go right now. Quickly gave hugs and kisses and hit the road.
As soon as we were out of their site I pulled over and told her pointing in her face “I have never embarrassed you in front of your family. If you EVER embarrass me in front of my family again, I am going to make sure you are ashamed to ever go back around them for life. I am going to give you what YOU know you deserved as soon as you deserved it and will call the police for you. I DARE YOU!” Her lips trembled the whole time I was talking because I’m sure she knew what she had done and it was clear that I was furious.
I did not speak to her for the entire four hour trip back home. I drove about 50 more miles and past a rest stop and several gas stations when she said she had to use the restroom and drove in the far right lane where the trucks have really worn down the road. I didn’t care and waited for her to raise her voice. There was a bit of respect that I lost for her forever.
Wow!!!! I hate that happened but I'm curious Do you think she was embarrassed that you told that she wasn't cooking which ultimately may have made her think that your family thought she was lazy? I'm just asking.
ReplyDeleteIf she didnt want to appear lazy she should have been doing it. I didnt think or talk down on it, I stated that "we" were spending about the same as cooking at home. I wasnt talking down on her. She just got on the defensive immediately.
ReplyDeleteInteresting response: if she didn't want to appear, she should be doing it. Hopefully, you have talked to her by now about your desire for her to cook more.
ReplyDeleteI admit it was a bit harsh of a response. I never asked her to cook more because I share household duties. I never complained about not receiving help with my chores until the marital war started. Many times I come home from work, cut the grass, wash up and cook dinner especially while she went back to school.
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